Practice eye contact in the mirror every day.

There was a way to improve your eye contact by practicing it in a mirror, spend 30 mins each day looking at your self in the mirror eye to eye, or look in one eye for a few mins then the other. Practice moving eye brows up and down and different smiles. Practice an angry face, happy face and different expressions in front of the mirror.

Ive been spending some time becoming accustom to what people see in my face when i express different thoughts and im happy with what i see , so i dont feel any doubt when i look and talk face to face with other people.

Since ive been practicing getting lost in what i see in the mirror , ive also started to enjoy just watching peoples facial expressions as they talk , ive become a better listner by being able to just be mesmerised by their eye contact and facial expersions. Its funny being more face to face with people, they are also picking up on more subtle cues that i am sending out like when i have a little wry smile.

Think looking in the eyes of people ive started to notice who  is open and who talks but does not connect. Its easier to tell if you are wasting your time.

When you are hitting direct eye contact more often than not this is more than enough conversation, no words are needed.

A little glance , or a little raise of the eye brows is all that is needed and communicates allot more than thinking of words to say. I sat and looked in my friends eyes for around 10 seconds the other morning and in that 10 seconds what felt like hours of communication took place. We were both on board and ready to work , and i could tell by the strong connection with the eye contact that i had a trusted ally for the days business.  I could tell where they were at , what energy level they had and when they were ready to take on the customers. No words needed, a little eye contact . I see who is trying hard and who is messing around.

I enjoy people watching , i could do it for hours. Its more intresting watching where people are focusing their eyes than any other feature. People are looking at the TV or glancing over your shoulder to see the ass of the hot office girl who just walked past . I follow the gaze and its funny to see where people focus there attention . So practice the eye contact in the mirror.

I love to watch two people deep in conversation  face to face/eye to eye. That bond and link between the two you can see the respect and trust, they are focused . The thing about practicing the eye contact consiously you start to feel the areas where you find it hard to make eye contact.

With certain people, or areas of the room to look in that direction or make eye contact with that particualr person its like there is an area in your vison that repells like when you try and push two magnets together. You can look all around the area easily but to look direct , there is a force that pushes you away. When you start to get good at making eye contact and looking all around your line of sight you will be able to feel where your problem areas are . Im still learning to try and face those trouble spots or awkward eyes areas.  Like i said before some breif moments conect and communicate a whole download of emotions in a split second. For some people a single look in the eye goes straight through the fluff and nonsense and in to the heart of the issue. A look in the eye of someone , you get that "Yep you know" feeling almost instantly.

Eye contact is very powerful , it is the ultimate communication tool. As there are no words , a quick look in my eyes in the mirror is sometimes all it takes to solve a problem as the answer is right there, i don't need words to communicate it i can see what i am trying to mean. A trusting look or a look that says , yes mate your still standing keep going is all it can take.

So get a mirror and look yourself in the eyes, smile to yourself or try and stare yourself down.